Swinging for the first time ?

[Stu&Stef]

We have talked about it and are we are in contact with a couple here in the uk but we won't be looking whilst we are away on our hols,well u never know lol

[iceblueeyez]

Hello everyone! I have read many of these different threads on this forum and this one has came the closest to answering a quetstion i do have about temptation. This is our first time at Temp & i have definitely had my question answered if there are any swingers there.

The lifestyle we choose is, i am open with him and another woman alone or me, him & a female. So the question i have, is there many single or bi women that frequent Temptation or is it mostly couples and few swingers?

Also live in a very "small town" here in the states & with our professions the lifestyle is frowned upon greatly! When do attemp to indulge when we travel but do not have much luck due to it not being our lifestyle 24/7.
If anyone could or would give us some info on how to express interest or realize the signs there are interest that would be very much appreciated! Thank you in advance and hope to meet all of you soon!! June 24-July 3

[us2933]

We've noticed so many couples on here looking for single bi fems, don't think theres that many to go round. We met quite a few lifestyle couples when were there in early May, don't bother with the single guys but there's plenty of them there. We managed to have some great fun with 2 very sexy couples plus there was lots of girly soft play going on xxx

[mattnkj]

Originally Posted by iceblueeyez

If anyone could or would give us some info on how to express interest or realize the signs there are interest that would be very much appreciated! Thank you in advance and hope to meet all of you soon!! June 24-July 3

We second that question. How do you start the conversation?

[bdanielle]

I'd ask the other party how they heard about the resort, then ask probing questions and find away to say something about swingers being present. They should give you some idea their response regarding their opinion on swinging. In addition to this, for people new to this crazziness, my advice is to just let everything happen naturally, party with the kind of people you normally party with and that you are attracted too. Be open minded, outgoing, and polite and perhaps the sexual gods will smile on you.



Or you could just come out and ask them to screw

[iceblueeyez]

Or you could just come out and ask them to screw[/QUOTE]


Now I love that answer! I guess our biggest question (where I'm bi & my husband has open options to play too) is where we are not actual full swap swingers we are concerned this resort is mostly couples & single guys. Is there any/many single women for not only me but him also, and is it politically incorrect to approach just the female of a couple?

I apologize if the questions are offensive, we do not want to anger or offend anyone so I'm just trying to understand the proper ediquet.

[robbin harnum]

Originally Posted by iceblueeyez

Or you could just come out and ask them to screw

Now I love that answer! I guess our biggest question (where I'm bi & my husband has open options to play too) is where we are not actual full swap swingers we are concerned this resort is mostly couples & single guys. Is there any/many single women for not only me but him also, and is it politically incorrect to approach just the female of a couple?

I apologize if the questions are offensive, we do not want to anger or offend anyone so I'm just trying to understand the proper ediquet.[/QUOTE]

we understand your question... we are a full swap couple and the lady is bi..... for us it would be ok to ask if she wants to play with you as we play apart but in saying that when one of us is playing the other one is close by.... if you know what i mean. so if you and her was going to play i would be there also.... i don't have to get in on the play as this one would be for her..... there are other couples out there like this but most will only play as a couple, some what we call soft swingers.... will play the ladies only and then sex with own partner that might be something to look into also. hope this helps. :ernaehrung005 :

[carlabrown]

SWINGING (lifestyle), yes the women make the final decision. And one big rule is NEVER TAKE ONE FOR THE TEAM!! And same or different rooms goes either way always depends on the situation. If the girls play first usually is the desiding factor. And for some seperate rooms work better. For a couple just starting out, I would suggest seperate, why?? Some people won't admit they are having fun and enjoying the situation, and watching your spouse enjoy himself or herself may be to difficult. So seperate is more enjoyable for everyone. No jealousy nothing. No chance of someone saying well you dont do that with me, you dont do this oh you made more noise. None of that happens in seperate rooms. ONE BIG THING be comfortable with youself AND TRUST TRUST TRUST... like someone said earlier, its SEX not making made passion love to the love of your life....The lifestyle is not always about the sex BUT, being with like minded people and having fun. Drinks, dinner, riding your motorcycle, you can be in the lifestyle (swinger) and go out 10 times but maybe only have sex 3 of those times. It's about having fun and FLIRTING!!!!!

[Dee & Duncan]

This is a very interesting thread.

We have a question, are the following two examples considered swinging, lifestyle or just having sex in the same room while an other couple does the same thing?

Example 1: Both couples having sex in the same room or the same bed but not swaping or playing with the other couple? Therefor, just providing a show for each other while you do it.

Example 2: Both couples having sex in the same room or the same bed but only the women can touch and play with each other while the men can only play or fuck their respective partner.

[Soonercouple_2009]

That is how we started out, someone watcing us. Once you feel comfortable, you can invite another couple to play beside you. Usually the women start touching, kissing which leads to more. It didn't take us very long to jump right in and we haven't stopped. We do not expect to play everytime we are together and don't go into it thinking that. John and I always have fun, no matter what we do, riding our motorcycle, hanging with friends and getting totally nekkid and partying with people.
I would just take your time, always talk about EVERYTHING and be open with your partber. That is what we tell everyone. We love to flirt but will not jump on everything out there.

We are going to be there with 3 other couples and 3 of the 4 are lifestyle friendly. Come out and say hello, party and just have a fun time. We will. 4 days a counting till fun.

[Ready2party]

Like others have said we just let things happen naturally, dropping hints to see how the other couple reacts. If it goes past that we are very honest and open with the other couple about what we do and don't do. Just be sure the two of you have communicated openly about your own boundaries!

[Mrs_Grimes23]

Omgeeeeee!!!! I want to start off by saying "all of you are soooooo awesome" you are all so open minded and I can't stop reading this thread. I have been following for a while and have finally gotten the nerve to post. I have never "swing...swang...swung." nor have I had the desire to ever want to. But reading this thread has certainly given me a totally different perspective and insight into the lifestyle. I feel so much more knowledgeable about this. Me and my baby have a different relationship. We have been in love and soulmates for 17 yrs but we aren't married. We are best friends and SUPER happy with each other. This is the first time we have opened a dialect about how comfortable we are being pleased by others and it's all because of this thread. You all have given me the steps we needed to openly discuss the possibility of the "being with others." we have agreed on our comfort level and it feels great. We have taken your advice and will have baby steps. We have you all to thank for streghthening a 17 yr bond!!!!! CC is the best website for this and from the bottom of our hearts, we thank you Steve and the awesome ppl on this thread!!!

[Dee & Duncan]

Thanks for all the responses and PM's

[JYT]

Great post Mrs. Grimes - my wife and I have been married for 10 years and these kind of threads are really great - I agree. We love each other and are fully committed, we certainly are not swingers, but..... that is not to say we haven't been to a place like temptations or in a friendly let loose atmosphere before and well.... what happens naturally and is fun, is well fun! We have never gone looking for anything or been to a lifestyle club or anything like that, but hey if we are having fun and the clothes come off and everything feels right and is fun, why cheat yourself of a fun experience, each time we have ended up laughing and feeling good afterwards and it has only added strength to our relationship and bond, as well as communication!