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11-17-2011, 05:18 PM
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| Cancuncare Enthusiast  Join Date: 8th Sep 2011 Location: Ohio
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|  "LIfestyle Friendly" starting to wonder? I'm not here to piss anyone off, but I do seem to be good at it, so might as well do it now. I feel I have to say something after reading posts over the last few months. I was really hoping Temptations would be different then here in Ohio. We are long time swingers and have gone to clubs and so on. It seems that those in the "Lifestyle" and those who are "Lifestyle Friendly" only are to those who feel the same as them. I agree that guys who touch, stalk, and are generally obnoxious should be dealt with. But some of us "Lifestylers" enjoy singles. Both men and women. The dressing sexy and having guys stare and drool is part of the alure. The ego burst it provides to know that you are a MILF and sexy at 40 is exciting. I highly doubt anyone cares if a single girl stands and stares right? Even if she was in a t-shirt and sweats. If you dont like people staring, dont go or dont dress in netting. If you dont like singles, guys included, go to a cpls resort. But please dont take one of the few "Lifestyle Friendly" places around that welcomes singles and convert it. Its not for you to decide how people enjoy their fantacies. Its for you to decide where the best place for you is to live YOURS out. We are choosing TTR Cancun specifically over Cabos, and Desires because it welcomes singles. So if you are single, respectful, and fun. We'll be there in June '12. Find us you can hang with us |
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11-17-2011, 05:28 PM
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| I can choose my own title  Join Date: 19th Mar 2008 Location: Halifax NS Canada
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| Excellent post!!! |
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11-17-2011, 05:30 PM
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| If the majority of the groups of singles we have bumped into in the past couple of years were respectful and fun we would agree with you. After 7 trips we're trying Cabo. |
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11-17-2011, 05:55 PM
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| Cancuncare Regular  Join Date: 18th Sep 2010 Location: Ontario, Canada
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| In our experience there is stark difference between a single guy traveling alone or with a friend versus large packs of guys (i.e. 5-20) lurking around Patty O's at midnight. Last time we were there we met two guys (friends) and they were a lot of fun. We got to know them over a few days and they were very respectful. Sure, eventually there was some flirting and comments about how attractive my wife was, but since we were comfortable with them and had got to know them the comments were just taken as good fun. On the other hand, during our last visit in March 2011 there seemed to be many larger groups of guys. These guys apparently thought they had a chance to score with my wife by opening the "conversation" with lewd remarks, followed by whispering between the group, followed by following her around the bar for a few hours. There was no touching or physical aggressiveness, but that may have been because I'm 6'5, 210lbs. I'm not one to stick right next to my wife constantly while at Patty O's, but on this night I had to stay glued to her most of the time. Totally spoiled the social fun we were trying to have with the other more respectful people at TTR! Stacia_and_John likes this. |
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11-17-2011, 06:04 PM
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| Cancuncare Enthusiast  Join Date: 24th Jul 2009 Location: East Stroudsburg, Pa
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| Never had any issue with single guys there. Let you know how it goes in 10 days |
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11-17-2011, 06:37 PM
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| I can choose my own title  Join Date: 29th Jul 2011 Location: Vancouver, B.C.
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| As a single woman, I certainly don't mind men flirting and chatting me up (I'd end up being single forever if I objected to that lol), but there's a big difference between that and being manhandled if I haven't invited physical contact. I think that is all that people were trying to say here. No one wants to dampen the sexually-charged atmosphere of the resort, but all activity needs to be CONSENSUAL, whether it's between swingers or non-swingers.
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11-17-2011, 07:55 PM
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| I can choose my own title  Join Date: 11th Mar 2003 Location: Denver, CO
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| I really don’t think people here want to ditch single guys from TTR. I know lots of single guys that do just fine. At the same time I have been shoved out of the way by a group of single guys when talking to a single lady. Tried to school a single guy on his own that putting his hands on a lady without their permission was not a good then, which he turned around to walking up to women and saying “I understand that I’m not supposed to do this” and then putting his hand on their leg (read clueless). I’ve also seen single guys hit on a woman while her husband is standing right next to her. But I don’t think those guys, or types of guys, come here. If they did maybe they could get a clue and modify their behavior. And since I’m a guy I can say…. There is a big difference between a guy standing there and drooling and a woman standing there drooling. Now I freely admit that there are some women that can rival guys in that activity but not the vast majority. Somehow woman just seem to have a little more class when doing it.  Jamie Stacia_and_John likes this. |
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11-17-2011, 08:48 PM
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| Owner and Administrator  Join Date: 14th Feb 2003 Location: Cancun, Mexico
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| Are we not missing the point of the OP here (or maybe I am). I don't think this is the same 'we don't want singles' debate that comes up often. Have a re-read of the original post I read the OP that although this couple dislike obnoxious people as do we all, they do enjoy getting attention from respectful singles. They feel that Temptation is unique because it's about the only lifestyle friendly resort where singles are actually welcome, and that is something they are into. Quote:
Makes it difficult for the single guys I guess! NikeRitaGhis likes this. | |
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11-17-2011, 09:24 PM
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| Cancuncare Enthusiast Join Date: 8th Sep 2011 Location: Ohio
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| BOOM BAM!!!! Steve you hit the nail right on the head. No one likes obnoxious people. But unfortunately that happens to most of us from about 16-25 yrs old LOL. All Im asking is please quit making the request or even mentioning that this should be cpls only. There are enough of those resorts, dont take this one away from us. BTW my wife is smoking hot. I'll have pix up as we get closer, have to find some PG ones. And she gets hit on all the time with me there. Its not rude, its a compliment. Hell, half the time when we go out they are buying my beer and dont even know it. LOL And every once in a while a special few get lucky... The same goes for ladies, I get hit on too. Granted its only about once a year. All Im saying is have fun, enjoy what you enjoy. But never try and stop what others enjoy just beause you dont want to try it. |
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11-17-2011, 10:23 PM
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| I can choose my own title  Join Date: 24th Sep 2007 Location: Rhinebeck, New York
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| I think this is a great post and shows an angle that is almost never brought up or defended. Good Post OHcpl |
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11-18-2011, 02:30 AM
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| I can choose my own title  Join Date: 24th Oct 2005 Location: IBIZA
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| groups of single men.. I run a busy bar in ibiza and have to deal with big groups of single men(stag dos) on a regular basis..and to be honest they are like children one glance at me and my whip and they behave..I have to stick up for the brits though..in general they respect woman and do not touch, they can be vocal though lol..however i do sometimes have problems with groups of european men..ie spanish and italians who tend to stare and touch without permission. I have visited blue bay getaway/ temptations..... probably 15 or more times..because as a single lady over 40 there are very few places were i feel safe and comfortable and can have fun....over all the visits i have met many single men, usually tavelling alone, but a few in groups and I have always found them respectful..the only issues I have had is with a few married ones that think its ok to touch without asking... that said it has been easily handled  looking forward to meeting and partying with all my cancuncare friends(singles and couples) in 10 days woop woop....
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11-18-2011, 05:58 AM
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| The problem isn't the guys traveling solo or with a group of repeaters. Its the groups like last years british invasion or the 100 guys from Brazil 3 weeks ago. The guys from brazil were acctually well behaved but put 70 single dudes in the pool and the girls get a bit nervous. We love the place, really, 7 trips. We are trying Cabo with our group of 20.. |
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11-18-2011, 08:22 AM
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| Cancuncare Regular  Join Date: 20th Oct 2011 Location: Mike & D, Atlantic City,NJ.
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| mbern, I hope you have a great time. But I can't wait to hear your review when you get back. I'm beginning to be a little concerned with some of the threads I've read about single guys crossing over the line. My wife is normally on the conservative side and I got her to take a blind leap of faith and agree to vacation at TTR. The last thing I need on our first TTR exexperience is a group of obnoxious idiots. Stacia_and_John and MJ_N_IA like this. Last edited by tiogamike; 11-18-2011 at 01:48 PM. |
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11-18-2011, 09:51 AM
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| Cancuncare Guru  Join Date: 28th Nov 2009 Location: Annville, Pa
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| Let us know when. We're thinking NYE next year...we'd love to see you guys again! Quote:
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11-18-2011, 11:24 AM
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| Cancuncare Enthusiast  Join Date: 15th Aug 2011 Location: Cornwall
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| people don't dig douche bags ... That's really what it boils down to .... It's not about swingers, singles, minglers, flirters or couples ... It really should be a "No Douchebags" resort ... . If you're a douche ... you're not welcome. If you enjoy making other people uncomfortable and people don't like to be around you .... you're a douche |
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11-18-2011, 11:47 AM
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| Cancuncare Regular  Join Date: 5th Mar 2010 Location: Atlanta
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11-18-2011, 01:19 PM
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| Cancuncare Newbie Join Date: 15th Nov 2011
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| Ive been to numerous resorts and it seems that once the pools games get sexier then average and lotta alcohal theres always that one that gotta do something stupid . Here hoping to more female then male majority come 1st week of Dec . Nothing against dudes but not into sausage fest either lol for a week |
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11-18-2011, 01:34 PM
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| Cancuncare Regular Join Date: 18th Sep 2010 Location: Ontario, Canada
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11-18-2011, 02:38 PM
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| Cancuncare Addict Join Date: 9th Mar 2010 Location: California
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| We dont think this should be a couples only resort the resort is great the way it is but mix hot ladys, erotic atmosphere,alcahol and some guys just become stupid. Or maybe its when they booked TTR they are thinking they are going to walk in to an big orgy and when they arrive they burst the bubble. But some guys are plain stupid on the other hand we met some cool dudes for real. |
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11-18-2011, 03:59 PM
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| Cancuncare Regular  Join Date: 13th Aug 2010 Location: St. Louis
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| There is a big difference between people getting together for a good time and groups of obnoxious drunk guys expecting everyone's wives to go home with them. As said ealier, if you are a douche, you are not welcome. |
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11-18-2011, 04:15 PM
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11-18-2011, 04:25 PM
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| Cancuncare Guru  Join Date: 29th Dec 2003 Location: Phx AZ
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| it dosent matter what resort you go to there are always "Douch bags" we used to go to Hedo alot and though that resort is about as close to a "Swingers resort" as you can find, there is the same mix of people. the swingers, the swayers, the vouyers, the flirters and the few couples that go "holy shit"  and stick to themselves. and you still have the creepers that go and expect every woman to want to have sex with them married or not.  ignore them and they will go away, if they dont someone usually makes them 
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11-18-2011, 04:48 PM
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| Cancuncare Enthusiast  Join Date: 17th Jan 2011 Location: Liverpool, UK
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| No means No. And that translates into most languages. Can it be any simpler ? |
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11-18-2011, 07:02 PM
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| Cancuncare Addict  Join Date: 18th Feb 2011 Location: Chicago
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Wow...I wish every resort would adopt this policy! I wonder if they could develop some kind of online "You might be a douchebag if..." quiz you have to take before booking, and if you get too many questions wrong, they automatically bump you next door to the Ocean Spa! | |
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11-19-2011, 10:03 AM
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11-19-2011, 04:53 PM
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| Cancuncare Regular Join Date: 20th Oct 2011 Location: Mike & D, Atlantic City,NJ.
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| First of all thanks for your insight. I guess the thread got me was (Jeff & Beth our last visit in March 2011 there seemed to be many larger groups of guys. These guys apparently thought they had a chance to score with my wife by opening the "conversation" with lewd remarks, followed by whispering between the group, followed by following her around the bar for a few hours.) Believe me I want my wife and I to experience and enjoy TTR to the fullest. I'm not the jealous type and I'm ok with her getting hit on. I know she would be flattered. I also had just read that the "Lingerie Night" wasn't policed since Chinos was gone. I just have a problem with disrespectful people. Up until I read those negatives everything I had read for the most part was positive. We have met some very cool people on this website and are looking forward to a great time at TTR. Mike Last edited by tiogamike; 11-19-2011 at 05:59 PM. |
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11-21-2011, 08:49 AM
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| Cancuncare Regular  Join Date: 28th Dec 2009 Location: England
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| We were there in March this year nad have to agree with Jeff&Beth about large groups, we also experienced them and thought twice about coming again. However Tiogamike, the nice people stick together and look after each other and I am certain you will have a great time. We have met some great single guys out there and some real characters that have helped make our holiday. Large groups of predators are not welcome in any situation I would say!
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11-29-2011, 05:55 AM
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| Cancuncare Enthusiast  Join Date: 16th Dec 2007
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I do have one suggestion for Cabo (we went week 8 - February), bring a sweater for the evenings. The nightly activities are mostly outside and it gets chilly there at night. Have fun! | |
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11-29-2011, 08:08 AM
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| I can choose my own title  Join Date: 7th Nov 2009 Location: Alberta
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| Wow what a great thread, love the post OHcpl. Great comments, it appears most adding to this thread feel the same. And Racer1510 so true so true, lots of people watching to do and so many mini soaps on the go... LOL Can't wait to get back there.. |
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