Wild1s - you're an idiot, and that's exactly the sort of lowlife view that is the reason we wouldn't go to a swingers place with people like you. Qccritter - I wasn't sure how explicit was tolerable on this forum. I'm not talking about public sex. I enjoy the buildup side to this 'swaying' (I like that), so I'd enjoy being hit on by a guy, and of course dancing, groping, kissing, flashing, no objections if there is some light sexual activity in public, fingering etc. Boyfriend would love seeing me with someone else. Then if it suits the situation, we take it elsewhere. But crucially when we're done we're done. No socialising or seeing them again. Just our preference. How can it be a 'troll' post, this isn't a swingers forum, this is Cancun info and I was simply asking for info! Tease - not if the lady in question was enjoying it and encouraging it. Perhaps I came across wrong with 'pushy'... but I was trying to get across the fact that sometimes back home nights out end up in disappointment on this front, as nobody will approach me if they see I'm out with a guy. A bit of persistence and cheekiness wouldn't be a bad thing. Jamie - thanks for the considered reply, but I do get all that. It's just not for us. We are not social animals. We enjoy this as a bit on the side, not a lifestyle. We have no Desire to make friends or have repeat encounters. Maybe if we were full on partner swappers we would. Maybe when we're older we will grow into it. But we like our approach. Everyone gets frisky, and boyfriend and I have great sex afterwards.