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Discussion in 'Temptation Resort Cancun' started by gfile, Jan 8, 2018.

  1. gfile

    gfile Enthusiast Registered Member

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    Hey all, 1st time booking to Temptations .......for April or May it's looking :) Love everything we're seeing and hearing about the place and the boobs cruise even has our attention!


    Quick question though...... are we going to be okay here not being a swing couple ourselves? I mean, is that kind of an expectation at Temptations?
    Wife's a little nervous we'll end up sort of off to the side and out of the social loop maybe
     
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  2. Alisa&Scott

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    Tell your wife not to be nervous. No means no, both to swingers and not swingers alike. There is absolutely NO PRESSURE to do anything outside of your/her comfort zone. Lots of people come to TTR who are not into swinging or swapping. You will not be left out of pushed aside as long as you are friendly fun outgoing party people - that is all that matters! :)
     
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    TTR can be as mild or wild as you want. Were all there for a good party!! I'm sure you guys will love it!!!
     
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    Just about to book our 13th or 14th trip. P&S said it very well it's totally up to you how far you go. We have always found TTR to break down into thirds, on any given weeks 1/3 swingers, 1/3 swayers, 1/3 never going to happen ;) You will find the same with participation in the theme nights. It all works out that no one every seems to be out of place. Relax, let your hair down and have fun. If you are asked politely say "no thanks" We are not swingers but I have to say we have met some great people who are and it is fine, no one seems to care. Or maybe it is just nobody knows you and nobody gives a shit! LOL I'm not sure if that is still the motto.
     
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    We fall into the “never going happen” category but by damn we will have a great time...both with each other and a group fun.
     
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    TTR is all about being social and meeting new people, having lots of laughs and drinking like fish. That's the overriding vibe, not people running around constantly trying to get laid (single guys are the exception...Craig, you know I am not referring to you!). The atmosphere is great for revving up your engine to enjoy your own partner if you fall into the "never going to happen" category.

    One of the best ways to gel with Cancuncare peeps quickly is to participate in the Cancuncare theme nights, some of which are the same as the resort's theme nights (see the separate threads here for each month re: what theme nights the group has agreed upon). eBay is the best place to round up theme night gear on the cheap. Have fun!
     
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    We fall n the same category......we know our boundaries, and are totally fine with the motto "live and let live'. The lively atmosphere cannot be duplicated anywhere else. We love the energy and party atmosphere. It's like spring break for adults, and who doesn't need that. No worries. Everyone has a great time. It is what you make of it
     
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  8. Jen&Kyle

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    One thing I don’t understand lately, based on the newbie posts, is why is everyone getting the impression that TTR is a swingers Resort? Is it from on here or the TTR website or ??? Just curious.

    I would guesimate that it is 1/3rd swingers, 1/3rd people curious and 1/3rd people just there for the party with every week being different based on partial takeovers and groups.
     
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    I'd say the majority of people there are just couples who want to go to a resort where they know everyone wants to party. We were nervous the first time we went (for the same reasons you are) and we had so much fun we went back 4 months later.
     
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    TTR is what you make it. If you want to be a swinger you could find some like minded people there If you want to party and just hang out then theres that too. Vacation at TTR is amazing and the best party in Cancun. The night life's at the resort so no need to go out on the town if you don't want to. A lot of resorts don't have night life at all. I have seen wild stuff at TTR and I have just chilled at the quiet pool or n the beach but I have also partied until sunrise so hard I was hung the F@ck over the next day. LOL TTR is one of those resorts that you visit and just let go and not worry about what others are going to say or if there will be kids running around. BEST RESORT IN CANCUN HANDS DOWN
     
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    Will do! Relieving to hear!! Man, how green are we, hey? hahahaha

    Although we may not swing (though pretty sure the lady is at least a little bit girl curious ........very awesome ;)), we're friendly, like to have a good time, and definitely not judgy. I mean, with your favourite swimwear being WW's and preferring topless, that would be a disconnect of epic proportions I would guess, no??? lol

    The only thing I'm a little concerned about when you say "outgoing" is that my beautiful lady is generally a bit shy. Now she does have an underlying wildflower that likes to make appearances in the right comfort zone though, so who knows, maybe at Temptations she'll quickly (and finally) feel free of the silly judginess we're accustomed to navigating around here at home.
     
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    No worries there! TTR often has that effect on many, many ladies who feel then can finally relax and not worry about being judged. They can just be their sexy selves. If that is what you are hoping for her, you have 100% come to the right place.
     
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    It's a combination of things that prompt people to ask is all it is I think.

    The new generation of media is so damned judgy in my opinion, and confused in general. That has a pretty big impact on the unfamiliar for people imo. I mean, think about the shock factor crap published online by thestar, dailymail, thesun, etc........ nipples are scandalous don't you know and OMG a thong bikini (sarcasm obviously), gossip and online hating is at an all-time high, shows like "fashion police" applauding negative criticism, creeps with voyeur cameras are practically everywhere, girls that have no problem making a sex video bash another for going braless, etc, etc, etc. It's all mixed up out there. There's also the trip review sites where you hear easily irritated and fracticious prudes writing lengthy negative reviews about apparently amazing oasis's like Temptations. Then there's the "Boobs" Cruise. What else you would call it for a reasonably accurate description I have no clue, but to a fragile generation coming down the line it has a certain taboo attached to it. And on all the popular porn sites, a topless girl in a swimming pool or on a boat means free-for-all orgy party happening soon.

    It really sucks because then the only suitable (or common) places whereTemptations is publicly advertised is at adult toy shops or sexy conventions where the market is pretty limited and isolated from the general masses. That in itself draws a judgy stigma unfortunately. I mean, we consider ourselves pretty open-minded among most of our immediate peers and family members, and it took us a long time (and several sexy tradeshows) to garner enough curiosity to research Temptations and decide to book a holiday here.

    But we found it and we did and that's an exciting thing! Can't wait!
     
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    Not just me, we both feel like we need a "let go and be yourself" sanctuary like this to steal away to once in a while!
    She herself actually suggested an interest in the boobs cruise (which was pure awesomeness to hear by the way :)), but I def don't want to book us into something that will cross the comfort zone line. She'll get topless in a heartbeat no doubt, but is there more to it than that? Meaning, we read about some people getting naked (that would be a new experience to witness for both of us), but should we be prepared for a lot more than that? No problem whatsoever, just trying to get a feel for what to expect I guess.
     
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    We are newbies going in March. I picked TTR as a Christmas gift for Colette. We are not swingers, but probably fall on the riskier side of the "swayer" category. TTR was appealing because everything I read here, on this forum, said it's the kind of place that can work for everyone. My wife does like to dress up in sexy clothes, is a bit of an exhibitionist and can be sexually naughty under the right conditions. Me, I'm a dude, so this is all good too. We do a Mexican resort vacation every year and there is just no nightlife at any of the places we have stayed at. Even the adults-only places are boring as hell.

    So really, we are going to try something different, with no expectations for one thing or another. Just planning to have some fun. Although, I'm hoping a lot of guys and gals hit on my wife... Pretty sure I'll be the lucky benefactor at the end of the night.

    We probably won't do the Boobs Cruise on our first trip, but am guessing we will sometime in the future.
     
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    You MUST do the boobs cruise!!!
     
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    Colette gets seasick at just the mention of a boat! :confused::eek:
     
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    You are likely to see some nakedness on a Boobs cruise. We've also seen a few quick blow jobs on occasion, and maybe some girls kissing or a little more, but nothing too serious. But who doesn't love that? It's really just a seafaring party that kicks up the sexy pool fun a gear or two. It's the best damn boat ride you'll ever be on, and you two will talk about it for a long time after! It sounds like your wife would fit in perfectly! If you're looking for an opportunity to bring out the "sexually naughty" you mentioned, your ship has just come in!
     
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    Aww man. I feel like we would really get along after reading this. Shame we are not going at the same time. Totally agree with all of this. Very similar to what we were thinking when we first went to TTR. I think you guys will have a great trip.
     
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    Maybe I can get her to chug some Dramamine...